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Hello dear readers,

I will discontinue this blog and from now on post all my stuff at
http://www.patrickleypold.com.

Feel free to read on there!

Kindest regards,

Patrick Leypold

Hello dear readers,

I will discontinue this blog and from now on post all my stuff at http://www.patrickleypold.com.

Feel free to read on there!

Kindest regards,

Patrick Leypold

Hello dear readers,

I will discontinue this blog and from now on post all my stuff at http://www.patrickleypold.com.

Feel free to read on there!

Kindest regards,

Patrick Leypold

how to use the nlp technique of "how-oriented"-ness and the nlp technique of well formed goals for your self management

you probably wrinckled your forehead when you saw the name of the nlp
technique i am going to expand on today.

let me explain: when a client comes to every other branch of therapy
and says "i am depressed", the therapist would answer: "why are you
depressed?".

not so in nlp: the classical question would be "how do you know you
are depressed?". if you do not know, lets just believe me that this
really changes a lot for start.

anyhow, so how do you apply this (and profit from doing so) to your
selfmanagement? well, by living what sean connery says in the movie
"the house of the sun": the japanese have the attitude that if there
is a problem, to find the solution and solve the problem first, and
only then to look for the guilty person. we spend our time with
looking for who to blame. i think their approach is better."

if you have a problem, start with the "how", not with the "why". that
of course only if you are on your track to reach your goals. but if
you are, religiously ask the question "how". it will bring you so
much further ahead than going in circles and whying this and whying
that.

now, the second part of this session is devoted to well formed goals
and what they mean for your selfmanagement. sometimes, there are
projects where you can only look as far ahead as to where your hand
is if you point your finger in a direction. projects in highly
volatile surroundings are a pain in the brain sometimes, and they are
a part of the daily reality of the entrepreneur, trainer or
entrepreneurial trainer. (and some others too).

so, by setting clear goals, and then going one step ahead and going
"ok, whats next", you can advance in an ever changing swamp of
possibilities. focus on the next possible, actionable thing that will
take you closer to your goal. SMART down your goals, if you need to.
SMART them further down if need be. and keep asking how. the why will
take care of itself with the SMART goals, keep poking wholes into the
realm of possibility.

until next time, and: keep evolving!

How to train your the nlp technique of milton patterns to use in every conversation

a few days ago, a friend asked if i knew a way for him to learn how
to use his milton patterns, but specifically in a subtile way, as he
realized that he was not yet, shall we say really subtile for now.

so i asked him to stop,

and just remember a time when he was in a situation, talking to
someone...

and asked him what he would need to be able to pratice his skills in
that situation...

and he said that he would need to be able to read them while talking
to the person (does that tell us somethinga bout his convincer meta
programs or what).

so i said: you have those milton cards, with a milton pattern on each
card, right?

yes, he said, and that he would feel odd to carry them with him and
pull them out while taking to someone.

i told him to put them next to his home phone, landline, and every
evening, to set the goal and do the drill call someone he needed to
call anyway, and use three different milton patterns in the
conversation.

easy. isnt it?

and, to be humble, i was quite stunned with the ease but coolness and
practicability of this out of thin air idea.

so please, bombard me with your ideas and requests for ideas, as i
have the feeling that there is a lot still there in my brain, waiting
to be pulled out on request.

you can reach me at patrick hear-you-fill-in-that-a-with-the-circle-
around-it studyfaster.org

keep evolving!

Hot to use the NLP technique of the Meta Model to improve results when working with Balanced Scorecard

Recently, I have had the opportunity to develop BSCs with two companies.

It is amazing how fantastically useful the nlp meta model can be when
eliciting goals for a group of people.

how would one use it?

first, get people together and into ONE boat. this is done by chunking
up high enough so that they all feel "picked up". who said the phrase
building rapport over there?

then, start chunking down, carefully, not dropping anybody off, and do
pay attention to the points where you meet resistance- there is an
application for a nlp visual squash there.

once you did, you go further down the way to clarity. btw, john
grinders book "wispering in the wind"- as awefully type-set it is, is
really a marvel and took my understanding of chunking correctly one
level higher. his style does take time to read though.

the only question left is of in which direction to lead your group you
are moderating. and how far.

this will be the topic of one of the next posts.

keep evolving!

Hot to use the NLP technique of the Meta Model to improve results when working with Balanced Scorecard

Recently, I have had the opportunity to develop BSCs with two companies.

It is amazing how fantastically useful the nlp meta model can be when
eliciting goals for a group of people.

how would one use it?

first, get people together and into ONE boat. this is done by chunking
up high enough so that they all feel "picked up". who said the phrase
building rapport over there?

then, start chunking down, carefully, not dropping anybody off, and do
pay attention to the points where you meet resistance- there is an
application for a nlp visual squash there.

once you did, you go further down the way to clarity. btw, john
grinders book "wispering in the wind"- as awefully type-set it is, is
really a marvel and took my understanding of chunking correctly one
level higher. his style does take time to read though.

the only question left is of in which direction to lead your group you
are moderating. and how far.

this will be the topic of one of the next posts.

keep evolving!

the nlp technique of actually listening to people

have you noticed that a lot of people acutally do not really listen to
others?

the reason for that is that they are unintentivly downtime while
supposedly listening to you, working on something in their mind, while
they are half with you.

most people do not do this on purpose, they are just so much used to it
to not notice anymore.

especially with the skills of the nlp meta modell, really listening is
a great skill.

here are two ways to really get your head and ears out of things:

1.) make a list of all the things that emotionally negativly bug you
from the past, then go about to get rid of them. it is actually one of
the basic excercises in the Emotional Freedom Technique, but man was it
quiet in my head after doing this.

you, or at least i, only find out how many voices you hear once you go
about to get rid of some of them.

2.) go intentivly downtime without a goal, simply listening. if you
just shut up, go downtime and listen, you will find that there are a
lot of open loops in your other than conscious mind that just need to
be closed. once you get rid of those, you already make a leap forward.

mental property, mental piece and peace of mind. now, how is this
related to manipulation? of course, you can only manipulate if you
see/hear/feel what people are giving away communicationwise. the better
you see/hear/feel what they are giving away, the better rapport you can
build, and the better you can lead.

comments? welcome!

in one of the next posts, i will talk about what you can do for your
time management, using nlp state management.

keep evolving!