the nlp technique of actually listening to people

have you noticed that a lot of people acutally do not really listen to
others?

the reason for that is that they are unintentivly downtime while
supposedly listening to you, working on something in their mind, while
they are half with you.

most people do not do this on purpose, they are just so much used to it
to not notice anymore.

especially with the skills of the nlp meta modell, really listening is
a great skill.

here are two ways to really get your head and ears out of things:

1.) make a list of all the things that emotionally negativly bug you
from the past, then go about to get rid of them. it is actually one of
the basic excercises in the Emotional Freedom Technique, but man was it
quiet in my head after doing this.

you, or at least i, only find out how many voices you hear once you go
about to get rid of some of them.

2.) go intentivly downtime without a goal, simply listening. if you
just shut up, go downtime and listen, you will find that there are a
lot of open loops in your other than conscious mind that just need to
be closed. once you get rid of those, you already make a leap forward.

mental property, mental piece and peace of mind. now, how is this
related to manipulation? of course, you can only manipulate if you
see/hear/feel what people are giving away communicationwise. the better
you see/hear/feel what they are giving away, the better rapport you can
build, and the better you can lead.

comments? welcome!

in one of the next posts, i will talk about what you can do for your
time management, using nlp state management.

keep evolving!