how to use the nlp technique of "how-oriented"-ness and the nlp technique of well formed goals for your self management

you probably wrinckled your forehead when you saw the name of the nlp
technique i am going to expand on today.

let me explain: when a client comes to every other branch of therapy
and says "i am depressed", the therapist would answer: "why are you
depressed?".

not so in nlp: the classical question would be "how do you know you
are depressed?". if you do not know, lets just believe me that this
really changes a lot for start.

anyhow, so how do you apply this (and profit from doing so) to your
selfmanagement? well, by living what sean connery says in the movie
"the house of the sun": the japanese have the attitude that if there
is a problem, to find the solution and solve the problem first, and
only then to look for the guilty person. we spend our time with
looking for who to blame. i think their approach is better."

if you have a problem, start with the "how", not with the "why". that
of course only if you are on your track to reach your goals. but if
you are, religiously ask the question "how". it will bring you so
much further ahead than going in circles and whying this and whying
that.

now, the second part of this session is devoted to well formed goals
and what they mean for your selfmanagement. sometimes, there are
projects where you can only look as far ahead as to where your hand
is if you point your finger in a direction. projects in highly
volatile surroundings are a pain in the brain sometimes, and they are
a part of the daily reality of the entrepreneur, trainer or
entrepreneurial trainer. (and some others too).

so, by setting clear goals, and then going one step ahead and going
"ok, whats next", you can advance in an ever changing swamp of
possibilities. focus on the next possible, actionable thing that will
take you closer to your goal. SMART down your goals, if you need to.
SMART them further down if need be. and keep asking how. the why will
take care of itself with the SMART goals, keep poking wholes into the
realm of possibility.

until next time, and: keep evolving!